Sometimes by Angie Stone

I am having a Angie Stone kindof day. I love this song by her. I heard it on the radio today and realize that I had not dedicated a post to her. Now the song is kindof old, but I love it all these years later...

Am I true to myself: A mirror to the soul...Inspirational Poem of the day

Am I True to Myself

I have to live with myself, and so
I want to be fit for myself to know,
I want to be able, as days go by,
Always to look myself straight in the eye;
I don’t want to stand, with the setting sun,
And have myself for things I have done
I don’t want to keep on a closet shelf
A lot of secrets about myself,
And fool myself as I come and go,
Into thinking that nobody else will know
The kind of man I really am;
I don’t want to dress up myself in sham.
I want to go out with my head erect,
I want to deserve all men’s respect;
But here in the struggle for fame and pelf
I want to be able to like myself.
I don’t want to look at myself and know
That I’m bluster, bluff and empty show.
I can never hide myself from me;
I see what others may never see;
I know what others may never know,
I never can fool myself, and so,
Whatever happens, I want to be
Self-respecting and conscience free.

Edgar Guest

WORST DATE EVERRRRRR!!!

I have never been know to talk about a date that I went or even a relationship that I have been in with anyone. I just a very private person esp. when it comes to the person that I am seeing. But this had to be posted. I went on a date with a guy that was rude, arrogant, a liar, and on top of all of that he was CHEAP!!!.. I am not a gold digger, but come on now man you cannot be cheap on the first date. I am an understanding individual, so if you tell me you don't have it like that, I can work with you. But what made it so funny, I wasn't even trying to go anywhere expensive. But talk like you have a lot of money and you can't even afford to rub two pennies together. I h8(not that is a strong word, I dislike when people rude or talk down to you OR EVEN ACT LIKE THEY ARE BETTER THAN EVERYONE. I don't like that. I also do not like when people try to talk to me as if I am 12. Now granted I am 24, but I am wise and very mature for my age. I got a lot going for me and I got a good head on my shoulder. I am far from perfect but I am very thankful for everything I have and I work VERY hard for everything I have. Just because you are a little bit older than me doesn't mean a thing. I can continue to blog about how bad this date was, but I am not. That would imply that I actually care about the insignificant individual/ non mother freaking factor in my life.lol. Bottom line he thought he was going to get a second date and he didn't. In fact he didn't even get a response when he texted and attempted to call me.

Question of the day: I wanted to know everyone opinion for today. What is your worst date? and Why was it your worst date?

So Just What Does It Mean To Be Natural? Everyone's Got An Opinion.

Hey Curly Nation!

It's NaturalNikkiDST, and today, I would like to discuss the concept of "being natural". Just what does it mean to be natural anyway? I actually thought I knew what it meant until I visited various chats and online discussions, but now I'm a tad bit confused.:( I've always thought that being natural in its basic definition was being free of relaxers. Now, after being a part of different online conversations, I've found that the concept of what is natural can vary from person to person. I remember visiting a Facebook fan page that was not a natural hair page, and they posted the question "What does it mean to be natural?" Of course, I looked at several people's answers before posting my own and was shocked and amazed that some people actually believe that being natural included being free of weaves, wigs, and any type of extensions (such braids). I thought that was rather absurd considering the fact that your natural hair will still remain natural even while covered under weave, because it does not alter your natural hair pattern (I digress). I then proceeded to give my opinion which was along the lines of what I stated previously, and tried to educate people on the use of extensions as protective styles by natural women. I was then verbally chastised by one young woman and told that women who do that only do that because they don't want to do their hair. She also told me that she had been natural for quite a while and didn't use protective styles, that I didn't need to either, and that people should do their own hair in a nutshell. I did try to explain that everyone is different and that there is no right or wrong to this natural hair thing, but I wasn't going to argue. I just left the conversation with a "to each his own" type of comment, and kept it moving. Upon further analysis of this whole natural hair debate, I've realized one thing. For some people, natural hair is a state of being and not just a simple change in hair texture. In other words, unless you're rocking your own natural hair 24/7, in some people's eyes, YOU'RE NOT NATURAL.  I say, WHO CARES! Whether you rock your natural hair as an Afro or under a weave, we all belong to the same sisterhood of naturals and should embrace each other for our differences as well what we have in common. As I climb off my soapbox, I hope you all have a wonderful start to the week! Until next time Curly Nation!


  Live Free! Live Natural!

the answer is YESSSS

I am a hopeless romanic and I love songs that touches my soul. I love Musiq Soulchild and I think he an amazing artist. I heard his new single on my way to work today, and I had to share this with you. What are your thoughts?

Last Nights, Early Mornings?

I came across this music video the other day, and I  wanted to share it with everyone. I love the concept behind the whole video... What are your thoughts on Last Nights, Early Mornings?

Should Tattoos be accepted in the workplace?

In 2010, when I was preparing to graduate college with my first degree, I had to do a senior capstone project. My groups decided to research tattoos and piercings in the corporate world. What we found interesting was that more people in corporate America have tattoos then those that have more liberal jobs. They just know how to cover their tattoos well. I personally do not have any tattoos, and I have been wrestling with the thought of getting a tattoo because of work reasons. I really want to put the tattoo on my inner wrist. But so many people tell me not to do that, because "its not professional and it would be tacky." I think tattoos should be accepted in the workplace. Employers need to be more open about that. Just because a person has tattoos, doesn't make them a bad person or be the judge of someones work character. However, I may sound like a complete and total contradiction, but I feel like people should have tattoos in moderation's, not just a walking art canvas.

Also check out THIS LINK RIGHT HERE about tattoos in the work place. Its pretty interesting...

A Strong Woman vs. A woman of Strength:

I stole this poem, what?!? it was catchy, at least I told you guys I stole it, I could have just pretended like I was the author and soaked up all the praise for this awesome poem.lol.

A Strong Woman vs. A woman of Strength:

A strong woman works out every day

to keep her body in shape

but a woman of strength looks deep inside

to keep her soul in shape

A strong woman isn't afraid

of anything

but a woman of strength shows courage

in the midst of her fear

Why do Women Hate Each Other so Much?

Women can be very hateful and recently it has really begun to churn my stomach. We can be brutal. If a woman is seemingly perfect, rather than giving her props, we find ways to tear her down, we talk about her and rather than finding out things that are going great for her, we try to sort through and report the negatives.
I dislike the word “hater” but what else can you call it? We tend to aim to kill with our words, back stabbing demeanors and even our quest to harm. Becoming an enemy of a woman is like signing a death threat or volunteering to be a firing squad dummy. We must seek to uplift, to build, to help and to restore. I have done my fair share of gossiping in the past and have said things that have hurt and harmed others, but I have learned this is not the way.

Am I Denouncing My Sorority???—-My Views…

Simply put, NOPE!
I have noticed the changes in the world. Things used to be so sacred, so secret, beautiful and fun and now, those things are everyone’s business. It has come to my attention that now so many people are “coming out” about their torrid sorority and fraternity experiences and are deterring possible new and present members from seeking and keeping membership because these organizations are deemed “satanic” and “ritualistic.” Well my thoughts are that it is in the individual. Many of these organizations were built on Christian principles, pride in different races and ethnicities. Why is it NOW they are so horrible? As someone who had a good experience, I feel that my organization supported my religious beliefs and only interfered if I allowed it. I am sad that these people who leave or openly and freely talking about our sacred information and submitting it to common knowledge. In my opinion, if you leave, leave quietly, not kicking and screaming. What I have noticed that many who go this route have had to leave the organizations because of things they “participated” in or because of other issues. Also there are many non-greeks who have NEVER had the experience….

Does today’s independent woman = the single woman?

In today’s society, women are thriving. We have become bread winners, business owners and executives. It has been reported that women only earn approximately 77 cents on the dollar, when compared to our male counter parts but, that hasn’t seemed to damper the plans, goals, and ambitions of today’s woman.
Many women are bringing home more money than their spouses, all while being mom to the kids, transporting them to soccer games, attending PTA meetings and still finding time to maintain the upkeep of the house and be a wife to their husband. Women are intricate beings, built to withstand, maintain and persevere.
Unfortunately, many of today’s women, in particular, the black woman, are single. Many women are okay with the fact that they do not have a male companion but, to many others, the pursuit of love is nothing unfamiliar.
I pose these question. Has the accomplishment of women, obtaining six figure salaries, purchasing a home and owning a business, without the help of a man in their lives, made their goals for finding a mate…..unattainable? Have we set ourselves too high? Have we set in place unrealistic expectations, when it comes to finding not just any man, but, the “right man”?
Ladies and Gents, what are your thoughts?

The Secret To Getting Everything You Want & Desire

By Faith Haller

Have you ever asked yourself “Why do some people seem to get everything they want, while you struggle just to make ends meet?” Well I have in the past and it is quite stressful! One problem was I was focused on why I didn’t have, and what others have, but never once did I think about how they may have gotten the things they have. I was focused on the wrong thing! Which is called negative energy. When we put out negative energy, we attract negative energy like magnets! You know that saying ” What ye sow so shall ye reap”??? Yup that’s it! Because I spent time hating on others and what they had and why they had it, I was getting NOTHING! Actually I was fueling their blessings! It wasn’t until I had a change of heart and a new way of thinking I figured it out.

The answer is simple to that question I asked. You were never taught how to get what you want and you were never given the right information. Well I’m here to give you the right information! We all learned the essential things such as reading, writing, walking and talking, but when it came to the important tools of life we were sort of left hanging! RIGHT???
A thing that I learned successful people, those that enjoy the quality of life and seem to attract the things they want are definitely different from those who are unsuccessful, unhappy, and bitter. They think differently and because they think differently they act differently and because they act differently they have a different technique from those who are unsuccessful.
I’m here to tell you ” Success is neither magical nor mysterious. Success is the natural consequence of consistently applying basic fundamentals.” ~Jim Rohn~
So you may ask what are the basic fundamentals of success? Well I’m just going to give you 5.

The Right Man

Hey All, I havent posted anything in a while, but this long post will make up for my absent.
I found this online and I thought this was worth sharing.

The Right Man  Author: Unknown
First we must allow our Heavenly Father to do the picking. And second, the decision for a mate must be made on a spiritual and intellectual basis before it's made on an emotional one.

'What about love? Shouldn't that be the third? you ask. No, and I'll tell you why. 'The heart is deceitful above all things and beyond cure. Who can understand it? (Jeremiah 17:9).

The heart is willful and is driven by its own agenda. It does not consider things rationally and intelligently it just loves to love! Therefore you have to point it in the right direction: 'Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the well spring of life' (Proverbs 4:23)!

Whenever you meet a man, you need to get clearance from God, check out his attributes, and then allow your heart to engage.

Dating exists not for mating; it exists for collecting data. I believe that the biblical design would be friendship, courtship and then marriage.

Friendship is two people walking together in agreement and accountability, learning and growing together.

Courtship follows the mutual agreement to commit to one another exclusively - it is the decisive turning toward the agreed-upon goal of the marriage altar. It is a period of laying a foundation and preparing your life to gether after marriage.

But dating? Well, if you do date, use the time wisely to gather these facts.

best thing i NEVER had

Beyonce has just released her latest track “Best Thing I Never Had.”
“I wanted you bad, I’m so through with it, cause honestly you turned out to be the best thing I never had, you turned out to be the best thing I never had, and I’m gon’ always be the best thing you never had,”sings Beyonce in her latest single.
Beyonce co-wrote the song with Babyface and like MTV suggested, reminds us of her 2006 hit “Irreplaceable,” in which Beyonce sings uncandidly about moving on from an unfaithful ex.
“There was a time where I thought you did everything right, no lies, no wrong, boy I must have been out of my mind,” sings Beyonce. She goes on, “So when I think about the time I almost loved you, you showed the real you, thank you, thank god you blew it, I dodged the bullet, I’m so over you, so baby good looking out.”

What do you think of "Best Thing I Never Had"? Share your reviews below!

Would You EVER Let Your Guy Pick Out Your Clothes?

Check out this link that I found on yahoo.com... This looks like a cute experimnet.

Click on this link: http://shine.yahoo.com/channel/beauty/would-you-ever-let-your-guy-pick-out-your-clothes-i-did-for-a-week-2482587#photoViewer=1

Now my question to you is whould you let your GUY dress you for one day?  one week?

Family Vaca? What are those?

So I was on my facebook today and I just so happened to look at one of my facebook's  friends facebook album and the title was called Family Vacation. And I said out loud, man oh man do I wish I could have went on one of those when I little. My summers and the saga continues even now, to being at home. I would have loved to go different places for the summer or even to the beach. My family was just that poor. My mother was a foster child so we didn't have any family members that we could go visit for the summer. So we stayed in God awful Roanoke. I remember when I was growing up, I would cry because we were poor, and we didn't get to go on vacations and get the name brand clothes. I remember I was so excited to work, because I was able to buy my own clothes. At one point, I worked two jobs, that's when I was going through my materialist phrase. I went on my first trip outside of Roanoke when I was in 6th or 7th grade with my at the time best friend and her mother. I had never been to the beach or anything. It was fun. Growing up, I did not have much. The family that I had consisted of my mother, my older brother, and me. If I had a better paying job I would love to take my mother on a cruise or a different state. She works so hard, and some days I wonder how does she sleep. I would love to take her on a real vacation like the ones I see on people facebook album. Hopefully we will one day.

Check Check CH-out My Melody

Music is like candy to a kid, like a pint of ice cream after a broken heart...it makes everything in life just feel better. It communicates so honestly and with such vulnerability that I think is often lost in other parts of life. It is happy and sad, full of pain and joy, and dang it ITS REAL!  I don't do anything without music, it turns on when I wake up and turns off only to sleep. I find enjoyment out of spending hours looking for new music and nothing makes me happier than finding something I just can't get enough of.  You know, I'm not even sure why I am writing this so I'm gonna wrap it up. But 1st, I'm gonna be awesome and leave you lovely people some stuff to check out!

I am having a MUSIQ moment yall

So I love musiq soulchild moment. Below I am going upload ssome of my favorite songs by Musiq. And these song did not make it the mainstream but were on his CD. we need more neo soul artist, who are geniune and real with their lyrics. All of his songs make you think and somehow you can relate.

Raheem DeVaughn - She's not you

Have you ever dated someon eand no matter how good that person was you still were thinking about that one person from the past. yeah me neither.lol

Social Work Orientation

No crafty title on this blog post.lol. Today I went to the my MSW orientation today. It was a happy experience AND  a sad experience. It was happy because I got in and it was good to be surrounded by future fellow social workers. And the teachers and staff made you feel all warm and fuzzy on the inside and that I am here to help you be the best you can be kind of attitude. But I was sad because I am moving to St.Louis. I talked to the director and they informed me that I can still deferred and I am all squared away for the next fall. I documented it all to cover myself and them as well. They even told me that they would mail me a hard copy as well. So without a doubt I am going to graduate school in the fall 2012. Its crazy how and where life takes you. Just months ago, I was all ready to start my MSW program. But now, here it is June, fours months after I got the confirmation that I go in and I am moving 13 hours away. I see everything as career booster that will lead to even better opportunities. I pray that I fall in love with the Show Me State and that I do not regret putting off graduate school for another year.

Change of plans

OK, so I as you know I was schedule to leave Norfolk and move to Saint Louis, Missouri in July. But since all this drama occurred I now have to stay an additional month and finish out my term. I will no longer be training in New Mexico and I am sad about that. My lease for my apartment ends July 31st. Now I have to find an apartment to sublease for 20 days. UGH this is so in way. Hopefully everything will work out. There is a happy ending to this all though. Since I had been in constant communication with the job in St. Louis, they promised they would hold my position until August. So that is a blessing.I will now train in Denver, Co. I have never been there before. I talked to Ms. So and So and I cleared up everything that happened. I did not want to burn my bridges with my current job, but at the same time I got to protect myself. I was honest and truthful, and I told Ms.So and So everything that happened. I was able to keep my benefits and my educational award. My current job however was not so lucky, since they did not do what they were suppose to do, after my position ends in August they are not giving them another person to replace me. I feel bad for them, but at the same time I am not staying. I will pray for them and maybe something witll come around. But I am saying is karma My time with them has ended.I am ready to start something new...and that something new is w8n for me in ST. LOUIS! I am ready to show the show me state what I can do!

Update on this right herrre is some bull ish

Update: So my boss's boss calls me at 5:56pm and tells me that my intern this past year, was applying for this position and she got another position as a VISTA and decided to decline because she wanted to work for my agency. Come to find out my intern calls the state specialist and tells the state specialist that she will be taking my position. The state specialist didn't know what she was talking about so the state specialist calls  Ms. So and So.Ms.So and So calls my boss's boss and they both talk.  Ms. So and So is upset with my boss's boss and tell my boss's boss that she did not know that I was not renewing my contact and took a job somewhere else. my boss's boss tell me what happens. Then she goes, they are thinking about possibly not giving you all of your educational award because you want to leave early. Then she goes I renewed you contact for another year back in April. I go, well I told you in April that I was applying for this job, and I kept you afloat, I am 99% positive of that. Then she goes you are 99% positive in smart little attitude then goes into this big uproar and tells me that I made a commitment for one year of service. And I go I did not know it would be a problem if I left one month in advance. I need my educational award. So if I have to I will. But I felt like I did everything right I kept you informed the first week  of April about this job. The new job contacted me at the end of March about applying. I did not tell my current job until the first week of April about the interview I wanted everyone to know about what I was doing. Heck I even blogged about my journey of the interview. So when my boss's boss tells me that I did not inform her until May, I am like this is some bull ish. I told her. No, I am 99% possible that I told you in April that I was applying for this job and each time I made it to another round.

See this right herrre is some bull ish

Soooo as you all know I got the job in Saint Louis (ring the alarm and que all the bells) I informed my coworkers, friends, my supervisor and her supervisor about everything. From beginning to the end they were informed that I was applying for a new job and no matter what I would be leaving the agency at the end of my term,. Boom. I got the job, everyone knew, I am excited and everyone was excited for me. My supervisor actually helped me out a lot during the interview process and everything. Her supervisor was a gr8 help as well. She actually in fact wrote me a letter of recommendation for graduate school, which I got in too. Special thank you and shout out goes to both of them for that. So I started applying for this job in late March. I got hired at the end of April.  I informed my job and everything, that I would be leaving in July. My boss's boss was fine with me leaving early. I asked my Boss's boss was that ok if I left early, and would that effect my educational award. She said no, you are fine, you can leave early. So my new job wanted my boss's boss to get in contact with the state office and get the A ok that it was ok for me to leave early. So I say ok cool. So I tell my boss's boss that and she was suppose to get in contact with the state office. Now granted she has been busy, but I asked three times. I left her a note on her desk,

Random Rant Time

Soooo I read the funniest status on my facebook homepage just now and I had to blog about it. Someone from my hometown said she does not re wear her outfits more than once because she does not want people to see her in the same outfit twice. What?!?!? 1st of all, why would you make that your status. Now granted she is entitled to do so because it is her facebook. But the reason why I am blogging about this right now is because she lives in Roanoke, VA!!! When did people start acting like Roanoke was the new Bevely Hills...No correction, when SHE start acting like Roanoke was the new ATL. I have not seen or heard of anyone famous vacating in Roanoke or even knows where it is. Did I already say that its Roanoke, VA, what you wear everyone wears. The only places you can shop at are Valley View Mall or drive to lynchburg or Greensboro,NC, and I am sure you will see those same females from  Roanoke at those same shopping centers. I am weak that she thought that she had has some executive stuff. I went through her pictures. And her outfits are cute, but they are outfits that can be wore again, they are nothing that are mind blowing..Now those that are reading this are probably thinking that I am hating on the girl. But I am not, I will give another female a compliment in a minute, and I like some of her photos and outfits. I am just laughing at that status..... Oh AND I GOT ONE MORE RANT.....

What I also don't like is how I was reading another status from someone on facebook. Shes a pretty girl however, she use to me a whore back in high school, and the whole town knew it. Now she is in a relationship, and she is no longer a ho. That's gr8. I am happy that she gave up her wildish ways and decided to stick to one person. But this young lady now, wants to act like she didn't use to be a ho, and wants to update her status calling girls buckets, and saying stupid stuff like she can count on one hand who she has been with, and she far from a ho.I just shock my head and laughed. In fact I gave this look when I read that nonsense.===>  ===>