Am I true to myself: A mirror to the soul...Inspirational Poem of the day

Am I True to Myself

I have to live with myself, and so
I want to be fit for myself to know,
I want to be able, as days go by,
Always to look myself straight in the eye;
I don’t want to stand, with the setting sun,
And have myself for things I have done
I don’t want to keep on a closet shelf
A lot of secrets about myself,
And fool myself as I come and go,
Into thinking that nobody else will know
The kind of man I really am;
I don’t want to dress up myself in sham.
I want to go out with my head erect,
I want to deserve all men’s respect;
But here in the struggle for fame and pelf
I want to be able to like myself.
I don’t want to look at myself and know
That I’m bluster, bluff and empty show.
I can never hide myself from me;
I see what others may never see;
I know what others may never know,
I never can fool myself, and so,
Whatever happens, I want to be
Self-respecting and conscience free.

Edgar Guest

WORST DATE EVERRRRRR!!!

I have never been know to talk about a date that I went or even a relationship that I have been in with anyone. I just a very private person esp. when it comes to the person that I am seeing. But this had to be posted. I went on a date with a guy that was rude, arrogant, a liar, and on top of all of that he was CHEAP!!!.. I am not a gold digger, but come on now man you cannot be cheap on the first date. I am an understanding individual, so if you tell me you don't have it like that, I can work with you. But what made it so funny, I wasn't even trying to go anywhere expensive. But talk like you have a lot of money and you can't even afford to rub two pennies together. I h8(not that is a strong word, I dislike when people rude or talk down to you OR EVEN ACT LIKE THEY ARE BETTER THAN EVERYONE. I don't like that. I also do not like when people try to talk to me as if I am 12. Now granted I am 24, but I am wise and very mature for my age. I got a lot going for me and I got a good head on my shoulder. I am far from perfect but I am very thankful for everything I have and I work VERY hard for everything I have. Just because you are a little bit older than me doesn't mean a thing. I can continue to blog about how bad this date was, but I am not. That would imply that I actually care about the insignificant individual/ non mother freaking factor in my life.lol. Bottom line he thought he was going to get a second date and he didn't. In fact he didn't even get a response when he texted and attempted to call me.

Question of the day: I wanted to know everyone opinion for today. What is your worst date? and Why was it your worst date?

So Just What Does It Mean To Be Natural? Everyone's Got An Opinion.

Hey Curly Nation!

It's NaturalNikkiDST, and today, I would like to discuss the concept of "being natural". Just what does it mean to be natural anyway? I actually thought I knew what it meant until I visited various chats and online discussions, but now I'm a tad bit confused.:( I've always thought that being natural in its basic definition was being free of relaxers. Now, after being a part of different online conversations, I've found that the concept of what is natural can vary from person to person. I remember visiting a Facebook fan page that was not a natural hair page, and they posted the question "What does it mean to be natural?" Of course, I looked at several people's answers before posting my own and was shocked and amazed that some people actually believe that being natural included being free of weaves, wigs, and any type of extensions (such braids). I thought that was rather absurd considering the fact that your natural hair will still remain natural even while covered under weave, because it does not alter your natural hair pattern (I digress). I then proceeded to give my opinion which was along the lines of what I stated previously, and tried to educate people on the use of extensions as protective styles by natural women. I was then verbally chastised by one young woman and told that women who do that only do that because they don't want to do their hair. She also told me that she had been natural for quite a while and didn't use protective styles, that I didn't need to either, and that people should do their own hair in a nutshell. I did try to explain that everyone is different and that there is no right or wrong to this natural hair thing, but I wasn't going to argue. I just left the conversation with a "to each his own" type of comment, and kept it moving. Upon further analysis of this whole natural hair debate, I've realized one thing. For some people, natural hair is a state of being and not just a simple change in hair texture. In other words, unless you're rocking your own natural hair 24/7, in some people's eyes, YOU'RE NOT NATURAL.  I say, WHO CARES! Whether you rock your natural hair as an Afro or under a weave, we all belong to the same sisterhood of naturals and should embrace each other for our differences as well what we have in common. As I climb off my soapbox, I hope you all have a wonderful start to the week! Until next time Curly Nation!


  Live Free! Live Natural!

the answer is YESSSS

I am a hopeless romanic and I love songs that touches my soul. I love Musiq Soulchild and I think he an amazing artist. I heard his new single on my way to work today, and I had to share this with you. What are your thoughts?

Last Nights, Early Mornings?

I came across this music video the other day, and I  wanted to share it with everyone. I love the concept behind the whole video... What are your thoughts on Last Nights, Early Mornings?

Should Tattoos be accepted in the workplace?

In 2010, when I was preparing to graduate college with my first degree, I had to do a senior capstone project. My groups decided to research tattoos and piercings in the corporate world. What we found interesting was that more people in corporate America have tattoos then those that have more liberal jobs. They just know how to cover their tattoos well. I personally do not have any tattoos, and I have been wrestling with the thought of getting a tattoo because of work reasons. I really want to put the tattoo on my inner wrist. But so many people tell me not to do that, because "its not professional and it would be tacky." I think tattoos should be accepted in the workplace. Employers need to be more open about that. Just because a person has tattoos, doesn't make them a bad person or be the judge of someones work character. However, I may sound like a complete and total contradiction, but I feel like people should have tattoos in moderation's, not just a walking art canvas.

Also check out THIS LINK RIGHT HERE about tattoos in the work place. Its pretty interesting...

A Strong Woman vs. A woman of Strength:

I stole this poem, what?!? it was catchy, at least I told you guys I stole it, I could have just pretended like I was the author and soaked up all the praise for this awesome poem.lol.

A Strong Woman vs. A woman of Strength:

A strong woman works out every day

to keep her body in shape

but a woman of strength looks deep inside

to keep her soul in shape

A strong woman isn't afraid

of anything

but a woman of strength shows courage

in the midst of her fear

Why do Women Hate Each Other so Much?

Women can be very hateful and recently it has really begun to churn my stomach. We can be brutal. If a woman is seemingly perfect, rather than giving her props, we find ways to tear her down, we talk about her and rather than finding out things that are going great for her, we try to sort through and report the negatives.
I dislike the word “hater” but what else can you call it? We tend to aim to kill with our words, back stabbing demeanors and even our quest to harm. Becoming an enemy of a woman is like signing a death threat or volunteering to be a firing squad dummy. We must seek to uplift, to build, to help and to restore. I have done my fair share of gossiping in the past and have said things that have hurt and harmed others, but I have learned this is not the way.